Kelly Corrigan: Tell Me More Stories about the 12 Hardest Things I'm Learning to Say


G Tell Me More this morning and was completely pulled into this reflection on life on personal emotional pain on love and on the things we say to those we love in anger or out of our own pain In the beginning essay It s Like This Corrigan relays what started out as an average day before anyone was awake anyway a morning sixty eights days after the death of her father with two daughters in the midst of puberty fighting over a tee shirt A little thing that turns into a much bigger event This forgetting this slide into smallness this irritability and shame this disorienting grief It s like this Minds don t rest they reel and wander and fixate and roll back and reconsider because it s like this having a mind Hearts don t idle they swell and constrict and break and forgive and behold because it s like this having a heart Lives don t last they thrill and confound and circle and overflow and disappear because it s like this having a lifeThese felt so real these feelings she shared it was so easy to slip into her thoughts her life and even though her personal battles may not be the same as mine her sharing these honest and personal stories of her life made this feel like a series of personal talks or perhaps even letters or emails from a close personal friend than from a woman I ve never met I Love You had me reaching for tissues but it was Onward that took my breath away Still there isn t one of these that I would recommend anyone skip over they are all worth reading and each is heartfelt and personal and also feels very real Many thanks to the Public Library system and the many Librarians that manage organize and keep it running for the loan of this book What a beautiful poignant and moving book Reading this book is like sitting down with a good friend and chatting over lunch She s the friend who can say what s in your heart but expresses it so much better She conveys these 12 phrases through offering s glimpses into her own life One minute she s telling you how she went ballistic over a toilet that wasn t flushed by the way if you ever find yourself at Kelly s house don t let the dog lick you and the next minute she s breaking your heart over the deaths of her beloved father and one of her best friendsAs I read I nodded in recognition I laughed and I cried I m not talking about my eyes welling Behind the Throne (Morgan Crowe Trilogy, up with tears I m talking actual tears running down my face Kelly Corrigan has such a gift with words ofsing just the right ones to convey exactly what she means to say words that often pierce your heart She s funny relatable and honest She is self deprecating and doesn t shy away from owning p to her less than desirable alities the mistakes she s made along the way and what she learned from them And what a storyteller she is She doesn t offer Captivated by the Millionaire up magical solutions she s learning right along with the rest ofsI received an e galley of this book but will be purchasing a hard copy for myself to keep by my bed and dip into from time to time It would make an excellent gift for any woman in your life many thanks to Netgalley Random House Publishing and Kelly Corrigan for an e galley fo this book in exchange for an honest review. Not be enough With refreshing candor a deep well of empathy and her signature desire to nderstand “the thing behind the thing” Corrigan swings between meditations on life with a preoccupied husband and two mercurial teenage daughters to profound observations on love and lossWith the streetwise ever relatable voice that defines Corrigan’s work Tell Me More is a moving and meaningful take on the power of the right words at the right moment to change everythi.

I tried to like it but it just smacks of self absorbed middle aged white lady Meh All of Kelly Corrigan s books have been winnersHere is another oneRead this book alone just for the chapter Onward What a beautiful tribute to an incredible friend My heart shattered and then piece by piece was put back together Both better and worse for the wearAnd the No chapter because who doesn t need remindingAnd of course I fully intend to make my own Things I Will Always Say Yes To list starting with H agen Dazs Deep Chocolate Peanut Butter Ice Cream naturally I fear my list may be overr The subtitle of this book is Stories about the 12 Hardest Things I m Learning to Say and her chapter headings are those twelve phrases Corrigan s grandmother always reassured her that she was good enough and would be able to withstand the vicissitudes of life because when she failed she just got right back p again and did something else That resilience is a My Mother, a Serial Killer uality important than beauty or intellectual horsepower when it comes to success in life though nobody believes that when you re youngSome of these stories are sad like when Corrigan loses her dad and at little later her best friend Liz Corrigan can be elouent when describing how important her best friend was to her and what a horrifying shock it was to discover she would die But she leavens her memories with the funny bitsthe bits where both their families travelled together with the kids and shared laughs and She is irreverent about her own accomplishments a career writing two daughters and a loving husband but we can tell how much it means to her to be with them It s all she wanted Four by Forty is how she put it Well she did not have four kids because breast cancer intervened but there were still four of them when she turned forty two kids and two parents so she satisfied herself with that Corrigan volunteers to hold newborns at a local hospital once a week getting her baby fix while giving relief to the corona of families and staff that surround a baby at riskOne thing Corrigan had learned to say was tell me which works when someone ispset or when they are angry The very fact of listening draws people out and clarifies their anxieties so that those stressors can be dealt with or dismissed One doesn t have to have any special expertise for this listening and yet people often find it most consolingThe lesson I liked best was her learning to say No Sexually professionally personallysaying No takes balls One friend told me her one big take away from three years and 11000 of therapy was Learn to say no and when you do don t complain and don t explain Every excuse you make is like an invitation to ask you again in a different way I learned this lesson early and all my life it has been my super power Corrigan tells The Italians Stolen Bride us her mother was a No Pro who had no desire to curb another s activities She had her own mind and shesed it If she didn t want to go somewhere everyone else wanted to go she d wave them off and settle happily to spend her evening alone It must be possible to say No nicely and still be loved Corrigan opines Her mother must have managed it since Corrigan loves her now She ma. It’s a crazy idea trying to name the phrases that make love and connection possible But that’s just what Kelly Corrigan has set out to do here In her New York Times bestselling memoirs Corrigan distilled our core relationships to their essences showcasing a warm easy storytelling style Now in Tell Me More she’s back with a deeply personal nfailingly honest and often hilarious examination of the essential phrases that turn the wheel of lifeIn “I Don’t.

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Y not have at the time however and we know this because of Corrigan s earlier book Glitter and Glue in which Corrigan settles into recognition and acceptance of her mother Very few people I ve known are able to set themselves free the way my mother has liberated by the simple act of saying no which I submit is impressive for any woman and downright radical for one raised in the nice and easy generation My Mom had always been able to find outs where others could not Looking back I think it came down to her impressive willingness to be disliked and her tterly Tikki Tikki Tembo unromantic position that people should take serious if not total responsibility for their own happiness Corrigan has lots of personality thatsed to be a way for men to say women are loud but she actually says stuff rather than just blow air and she can be really funny It you listened to her describe Bidding on Her Boss (The Hawke Brothers, using her daughter s round tipped scissors to cut off a shirt she d bought on sale but couldn t manage to take off past her boobs once on you know what I mean She may actually be a little bit loud but she is definitely the one you d aim for at a party or for a long walk she d never be without some observation worth developing into something bigger and deeper I am nothing like her but I appreciate that mother nature of hers to the end I have always admired mothers for their stop gap practicality and their attention to the things that matterThe end of this memoir reads like a long eulogy for Liz and what her friendship meant It is the best darn eulogy I have ever heardin the way it sounds like a wedding toast it is so full of life an love and gratefulness and remembrance It would be a wonderful model for someone wishing to find a way to say what is in their hearts for their own friends or relatives We ll all have to face it one day and judging from Corrigan s experience we are never ready Corrigan reads the audio of this book herself and it is a good way to enjoy the Penguin Random House production The book would be good as well because the eulogy passages you may want to read again Hold me nowIt s hard for me to say I m sorryI just want you to knowHold me nowI really want to tell you I m sorryI could never let you go After all that we ve been throughI will make itp to youI promise toAnd after all that s been said and doneYou re just the part of me I can t let go Hard to Say I m SorryChicago Songwriters David Foster Peter CeteraTwelve essays based on twelve phrases that we Hoofd in de wolken (Puffin Island use to connect with others to share our thoughts and feelings to recognize the thoughts and feelings of others It s Like This Tell Me More I Don t Know I Know No Yes I Was Wrong Good Enough I Love You No Words at All Onward This Is ItI haven t read anything by Kelly Corrigan before I d forgotten I d even seen her name before reading about this book but this was a book that a few of my Goodreads friends had rated highly and had written reviews that spoke to me And so I checked my library got on the waiting list figuring it would be months before I ever had an opportunity to read this and then yesterday saw that this and another book I d added to my wait list were available for me I began readin. Know” Corrigan wrestles to make peace withncertainty whether it’s over invitations that never came or a friend’s agonizing infertility In “No” she admires her mother’s ability to set boundaries and her liberating willingness to be npopular In “Tell Me More” a facialist named Tish teaches her something important about listening And in “I Was Wrong” she comes clean about her disastrous role in a family fight and explains why saying sorry may.

Kelly Corrigan is a New York Times bestselling author whose writing has appeared in O Magazine Glamour and Good Housekeeping Her newspaper columns for the Bay Area News Group cover everyday matters from the power of an uneuivocal apology to the contagious nature of weight gain extramarital affairs and going green