Tracy Slater: The Good Shufu

This was so interestingtracy slater is a feminist english professor boston born and raised while teaching an english course to japanese mba students she falls in love with one of er students a japanese salaryman named toru cue a life lived part time in osaka and slater musing over Outside the Paint her relationship culture clash ander idea of Hoopers Pasture from Maine to Vermont homepart of what got me into it is this is really a book about two distinctive and foreign cultures to me slater is from a very moneyed background which intersects wither feminist politics in ways that occasionally Historic Hahns Peak had me kind of goinguh which she is aware of the most obvious example is at one point she tells toru that she never cooks and they can just go out to eat every night and Deathcaster (Shattered Realms, his reaction was akin to mine every night no come on that s too much we need to eat atome sometimes and slater Out of the Ashes (The Legacy Chronicles, has this moment where she s likeuh it s possible my feminist stance against BITE (A Mate Of His Own having to cook is oneeavily influenced by class privilegewhich uh well yesi don t know i ad expected to ave in common with slater i love literature i love feminism i m not american but Six-Moon Trail hey canadian isn t that far off when we re not kidding ourselves and those moments of dissonance were interesting inow they Mustard Seed Magic highlightedow very specific er particular cultural perspective wasplus she s a good writer and i really like reading about ow people negotiate relationships across cultural differences so35 stars I absolutely loved this book and read it in 72 Leftover Dead (Trailer Park Mystery, hours but only because it was the end of my kids school year and I was busier than usual Tracy Slater writes a deeply movingonest memoir about The Witches her big move to Japan for a man she meets while she s teaching in an executive MBA program in East Asia Toru is a salaryman whoas studied English but doesn t speak it fluently Tracy knows no Japanese and Splinter has never thought much about Japan before moving there for a short time to teach But love often creeps up on us when we least expect it and that was the case with Tracy and Toru One would thinkis Osaka based family might be opposed to their only sonbrother marrying a foreigner but Toru s family was very supportive I loved Breed of Innocence (The Breed Chronicles how close Tracy became wither father in law That was almost as endearing as The Princes Mistress her relationship wither Immortal Jellyfish husband Toru is portrayed as a solid realistic unconditionally supportiveusband so much so that we all can t California help but fall in love withim too I knew Tracy s story before I read The Good Shufu but that didn t keep me from feeling nervous sad and exhilarated for Afgantsy her as I stole every free moment to read abouter next struggle in Japan and Boston She really puts Distant Early Warning (Star Trek (Star Trek: S.C.E., herself out there and shows aller vulnerabilities as she tries to figure out Somnium her marriage and family like with Toru Even though the subject matter is serious and oftentimes sad Tracy Slater writes with aumbling The Cronos Complex I humor thatad me alternating between laughing out loud at the funny parts and tearing up at the sad ones One ironic thing though She writes about wanting to become an internationally renowned food writer only to realize that she doesn t like some Japanese food like sushi and grilled octopus balls But er food writing in the book was vivid and enticing I found myself craving a large bowl of udon and shrimp tempura not to mention rice and seaweed balls sushi and those grilled octopus balls This book is just as beautiful inside as it is outside I can t wait to read it again and again Even now I am astonished at ow the author refused point blank to learn er usband or new country s language It was an actual case of wilful ignorance She seems incapable of even imagining that other people such as er usband or other Japanese citizens who are living in their own country might Heart Beat have preferred or culturally different ways of thinking about or living their lives When Tracy even entertains a ghost of this thought it is alongside derision Let s be real Forer entire life Tracy never. The brave wry irresistible journey of a fiercely independent American woman who finds everything she ever wanted in the most unexpected place   Shufu in Japanese it means “housewife” and it’s the last thing Tracy Slater ever thought she’d call The Site Book herself A writer and academic Tracy carefully constructed a life she loved iner The Devils Possession hometown of Boston But everything is upended when she fallsead over Betraying Beauty (Vegas Titans, heels for the most unlikely mate a Japanese salary man based in Osaka who barely speakser language Deciding to give fate a chance Tracy builds

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Has to or even tries to do anything that s actually Vrolok hardtl dr poor little rich girl moves to japan judges people from other cultures whilst sitting oner ass The Good Shufu Finding Love Self and Home on the Far Side of the World by Tracy Slater is a very enjoyable memoir I picked it to read because I married someone from a different culture too only Chinese instead of Japanese Also the blurb about 僕の愛を知れ! [Boku no Ai o Shire!] her boyfriend who later becameer The Boy Who Would Not Say His Name husband was about such a sweet and understandinguman being Someone cautioned me that Job-Hunting for the So-Called Handicapped his personality goes against the stereotypical uncaring Japanese man Of course that statement did not stop meMy only negative is that my interest in the story sagged some in the middle because of the author s discussion of whether or not to continue the relationship because she loved Boston so much and if she moved to Japan it would ruiner plan for The Hunger Within her well thought out life Later on she came to a tentative resolution ander story turned into a page turnerI loved Between Two Skies her portrayal ofer Toru the spiky Witch-Hunting in Seventeenth-Century New England haired guy iner class about business communication He could barely speak English when she first met Nude Girls Photography Presents Ass Pussy From Behind - Compilation Vol. 5 him but it didn t takeim long to reveal that The Dolce Diet he lovederThe author is very Brave Enough honest abouter shortcomings that she wasn t aware of until she started to teach the class I like the freshness of that many autobiographers are not so Spunk honest about their flaws or their lacks I think if I ever returned to Japan I was there only for a one day layover I would be aware of the cultural differences Don t think I will ever forget about the wayer father in law and Toru The Kafka of 238th Street handled the disappointments in life and the special lesson that the author stated at the end of the bookI would welcome a seuel to learn of Tracy Slater ander family s life I am still very curious about Japan a fascinating placeI received an Advanced Reading Copy from Vine free but that in no way influenced my thoughts or feelings in this review I enjoyed this so much It s a memoir by a proudly feminist professor who teaches a course in conversational English to Japanese businessmen falls in love with one of them and moves to Japan Slater really captures the joys of a new relationship and the strangeness and wonderfulness of dating someone from a different culture She s self aware self deprecating and insightful She paints a vivid picture of Japan And The Letters to the Thessalonians her portrait ofer father in law made me cry and cry Docking one star because the writing can get a bit overwrought But overall I ighly recommend this to anyone interested in Japan marriage writing or ow to balance your career and your family life I spent most of my reading time wondering why this self proclaimed fiercely independent feminist spent so much of Geheimes Verlangen (Shades of Grey, her time shackled to worries about future problems that seemed toold Ivory (The Ivory Saga her back from actually being fiercely independent Sadly this seemed to be the underlying theme though I m sure unintended oner part It read like a long winded meandering fish out of water story with a moderate collection of interesting Japanese culture that seem like anecdotes I guess I was Never Go Back (Jack Reacher, hoping for a story about a REAL fiercely independent woman who seized love and a new culture a bit bravely than the author actually did It seems she just moved to Japan kepterself in an American bubble and noted the differences in a bookKnowing a bit about Japan I think the author does point out some genuine differences that are interesting But just don t expect a real page turner I was really excited to read this book and ad igh Venus Blueprint hopes However it is just one really long WHINE abouter life insecurities and first world problems I was sympathetic until a certain point in the book when she mentioned she was 40 years old and I felt shocked that I wasn t reading the words of a twenty something The author comes across as very spoiled and self centered though she does step up into the role of shufu in terms of the care she giv. Life and marriage in Japan a country both fascinating and profoundly alienating where she can read neither the language nor the simplest social cues There she finds Shame On Her Volume 3 herself dependent oner Bisk CPA Review husband to orderer food answer the phone and give A Crazy Kind of Love her money When she begins to learn Japanese she discovers the language is inextricably connected with nuanced cultural dynamics that would take a lifetime to absorb Finally when Tracy longs for a child she ends up trying to grower family with a Petri dish and an army of doctors with whom she can barely comm.

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Es The Medieval Forest her father in law Mostly though I was disgusted that she made little real effort to learn Japanese and function in Japanese societyThis probably ages me but when I was in the same position we didn tave the internet and couldn t afford phone calls to our therapists or even to our family in the States So we did our best to adjust It seems that the author would rather change The Road Beyond Ruin her circumstances than changeerself but I would Backlash haveoped for of a balance there Now that she Bloody Bones (Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter, has a child I m guessing it willappen It should be inevitable This may be a Bloody Bones (Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter, harsh review but really it was just too much self centered whining and I say this as someone who comes from the same Jewish background as the author Cowboy up girl An interesting book about a self described independent feminist who falls in love with a Japanese businessman marriesim tries to live a life in both Japan and Boston It seemed ironic to me that she loved er usband because e made er feel safe and took care of everything for Black and White her Her feminism flew right out the window She whined a lot about unimportant things and I felt cheated by the way she ended the book Having said that though this was a book club assignment and it should be a very interesting discussionI did loveer The Color of Water husband Toru He was a very patient man Japan is still very much male dominated country where Men expect women to take supportive roles in every situation For an independent Japanese woman it s not easy to be married to a typical Japanese man I know it because I m Japanese and chose to marry to a Caucasian American Man and moved to USATHE GOOD SHUFU s author Tracy Slater was a very independent women living in Boston However she fell in love with a Japanese guy who didn t even speak good English What did she do She not only married to a Japanese man but also moved to OSAKA where foreign I was drawn to The Good Shufu based on the topic and description but I didn t love the execution Tracy Slater s memoir of the first few years ofer relationship and marriage to a Japanese man is touted as a book about کسی به سرهنگ نامه نمی‌نویسد how Slater s North American feminism collides with the social expectations she finds as a wife in Japan In reality much of the book takes place before the marriage and is about Slater s mixed feelings about moving to Japan and getting married it feels like it s abouter personality and insecurities than about the cultural chasm she Cake Pops has entered Once she does move to Japan the book continues to dwell on Slater s insecurities for example askinger Brave New World husband whether people could tell she wasn t wearing underwear when wearing a particular dress to a wedding and worrying about whater The Name of the Rose husband s aunt thinks ofer I suspect that this type of insecurity and dependency can be a real effect of dislocation for many people but that doesn t necessarily make it interesting reading at least not to me Where the book was interesting to me is when Slater does write about er observation of life in Japan from a Western perspective trying to understand what feel like impenetrable cultural differences and figuring out ow best to adapt to this environment that seems to Memories of My Melancholy Whores have specific expectations of foreigners and women And the depiction ofer relationship with Pakistan her father in law is very touching Ultimately this is a book about the challenges of relationships early marriage and fertility than it is a book about adapting to Japanese culture Overall The Good Shufu was interesting in parts but not as much as Iad Pitch Dark hoped Perhaps this speaks to my relationship with memoirs than anything else Iave a very low tolerance for self indulgent uncritical self observation and am much interested in memoirs that are outward looking and Dont Forget Your Spacesuit, Dear help me understand different times and places Of course by definition many memoirs fall into the first category so this may simply be a uestion of taste Thank you to the publisher and Netgalley for an opportunity to read an advance copy. Unicate And yet despite the challenges Tracy is sustained byer usband’s uiet love and being with im feels like “home” than anything ever The Green Pharmacy has Steadily and surely she fillser life in Japan with meaningful connections a loving marriage and wonder at Deadly Slumber - Demon Tales her adopted country a place that will never feel natural or easy but which provides endless opportunities for growth insight and sometimesumor A memoir of travel and romance The Good Shufu is a celebration of the life least expected messy overwhelming and deeply enriching in its complicatio.

Tracy Slater 's essays and articles have been published in the Best Women’s Travel Writing anthology the New York Times online The Wall Street Journal online The Boston Globe Boston Magazine The Chronicle Review The Washington Post online and Brain Child Magazine online among other placesHer book The Good Shufu Finding Love Self and Home on the Far Side of the World was published in 2